No matter how different, unique or special we want to be, we still feel a strong need to be accepted by the society. It really sucks to know that we actually care what others think, but it’s in our inherent nature. Since ages ago, humans lived in tightly-knit communities and deviating from the rules and ideals meant death. Well, the times have changed and we are creating new movements.
One of my favorite historical figures is Edward Bernays – father of the modern public relations. He is the reason why bacon and eggs are a popular breakfast dish and why women smoke cigarettes. The way he went about business in his time was truly extraordinary. And the premise of his strategies was very simple: people live by herd mentality, which can be easily manipulated by media outlets. Businesses have been expanded, taboos slashed, and money made based on this principle. It is mind-blowing. (See YouTube video here)
I’m sure like everyone else, I had some dreams in life that were shut down by others. It didn’t matter if those people were close to me or not – their disapproval resonated into my unease and self-doubt. Now I know that probably it was their unease and self-doubt.
If I learned one thing in life it’s this: people who can’t do it will say that YOU can’t do it. Deeply, they are affected by their own weaknesses, and seeing you succeed would mean that they themselves are a failure. Perhaps their views and values on life are also explained by such behavior, but that’s none of your business.
Your business is your prize, your ultimate goal or pursuit. Your craft is the only thing that’s important.
The masses are wrong. Yes, I said it. Academically, this is known as “group think” – when individuals mold into one brain and differences in ideas tend to dissipate. This is when the cluster begins to adopt an identity, in some cases a completely delusional one. Note here that the only way to get to the road of progress is by breaking the mold of same thinking. This is done by “leaders,” who are deemed “crazy” by the masses. (ie “if you are not with us, you’re against us” kind of thing). Naturally, we reject what’s different because it’s unknown, uncertain, and may pose a threat. Hence, our biological defense mechanism kicks in. Remember that.
When you have unorthodox ideas, the chance of being rejected by the society is practically at maximum.
Evaluate whether you really mean “fuck what others think.” And when you’re ready to take the stand and follow through with your dreams, let the world see it.